This page brings together articles and reflections from my practice.
Some focus directly on therapy, trauma, the nervous system, neurofeedback, and relationship patterns. Others reflect more broadly on the values and human questions that shape how I think about suffering, care, relationship, and psychological work.
These reflections are not a substitute for therapy. They are offered as a way to explore ideas, recognise patterns, and get a fuller sense of how I think about therapeutic work.
If you have come here because you are considering therapy, you may also want to look at:
Getting started ›
For a first orientation if you are unsure where to begin.
Individual therapy ›
For anxiety, overwhelm, shutdown, self-criticism, trauma, dissociation, and recurring patterns.
About me ›
For more about my background and the way I came to this work.
Key values ›
For some of the values that shape how I hold therapy, supervision, and clinical responsibility.
For therapy to help, it does not need to feel perfect, but it usually does need to feel safe enough. This article explores what helps create that sense of enough safety: pacing, steadiness, consent, attunement, clarity, and the possibility of rupture and repair.
Read MoreDissociation can feel confusing, frightening, or hard to explain. You may go blank, feel distant from yourself, lose time, or feel as though things are unreal. This article explains dissociation as a protective response rather than a personal failing, and outlines how therapy can approach it gently.
Read MoreSome people can describe their difficulties clearly and still feel as though something deeper is not shifting. This article explores what it can mean for therapy to include the body, nervous system, posture, tension, impulses, and protective responses as well as reflection and conversation.
Read MoreIn trauma-informed therapy, the first signs of change are often quiet. A reaction may still arise, but pass more quickly. A familiar feeling may still be present, but no longer take over in the same way. This article explores why trauma therapy can feel subtle before it feels transformational, especially where developmental trauma, nervous-system regulation, pacing, integration, and relational safety are part of the work.
Read MoreSome people look as though they are coping well from the outside, yet inside they are exhausted, tense, shut down, overwhelmed, or still reacting in ways they cannot fully shift. This article explores the hidden cost of high functioning, why insight and talking may not always be enough on their own, and how therapy can help.
Read MoreFeeling constantly on edge can be exhausting. This article explains hypervigilance in plain language: why the nervous system stays on guard, how trauma and chronic stress can shape this response, and why it is not a sign of weakness or overreaction.
Read MoreMany people come to therapy with good insight into why they struggle, yet still feel hijacked by anxiety, shutdown, shame, or relational patterns. This article explores why trauma is not only cognitive, and why meaningful change may require attention to relationship, affect, the body, and the nervous system as well as reflection.
Read MoreWorking relationally in therapy means more than talking about relationships. This article explores self-exploration, ego states, shock, affect, and the integration of top-down and bottom-up approaches.
Read More“I understand why I’m like this — but it still happens.” If you can relate to this, read more about how trauma operates in relationship.
Read MoreSome difficulties live primarily in the nervous system, not in the story.
Read MoreDBR and ILF neurofeedback can complement each other: neurofeedback supports regulation and sleep; DBR resolves shock patterns. Here’s how integration works.
Read MoreHave you ever jumped at a sudden noise, felt your stomach drop when someone’s tone changed, or noticed your body tense before you even understood why?
That’s not you being “too sensitive.” That’s your nervous system doing its job.
Read MoreWhat happens after Deep Brain Reorienting? Common responses include tiredness, vivid dreams, emotional softness, and calmer reactivity. Here’s how to integrate.
Read MoreDeep Brain Reorienting (DBR): a gentle way to resolve shock and trauma
Read MoreA few reflections about my experience and practice of mindful meditation.
Read MoreRelational psychotherapist, ILF neurofeedback practitioner, and clinical supervisor.
Psychotherapy and supervision are available in person and online.
ILF neurofeedback is available in person only, in Reading, Berkshire.
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UKCP Registered Psychotherapist · UKCP Registered Clinical Supervisor
BACP Registered Member · CTA-P
