Trauma in Relationships — Why Safety Matters More Than Insight
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“I understand why I’m like this — but it still happens.” If you can relate to this, read more about how trauma operates in relationship.
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Reflections on psychotherapy, trauma, relationships and embodied experience
Writing on psychotherapy, trauma, relationship and the nervous system
This page brings together articles and reflections arising from clinical practice, ongoing study and the questions that continue to shape how I think about psychotherapy.
Some explore trauma, regulation, neurodiversity, neurofeedback, relational patterns and the process of therapeutic change. Others consider broader questions about adaptation, suffering, connection, responsibility, and what therapy may—and may not—be able to offer.
The aim is not to provide treatment advice or simple answers. These reflections offer a place to think more deeply about psychological experience and the ideas that inform my work.
If you are considering therapy and would prefer a practical starting point:
Getting started ›
For a quieter collection of words that have accompanied my thinking and work:
Words that accompany the work ›
Why Talking Isn’t Always Enough — and Why It Still Matters
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Some difficulties live primarily in the nervous system, not in the story.
Read MoreDBR and ILF neurofeedback: when regulation support helps trauma work
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DBR and ILF neurofeedback can complement each other: neurofeedback supports regulation and sleep; DBR resolves shock patterns. Here’s how integration works.
Read MoreDBR, EMDR, and somatic therapy: a balanced comparison
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Confused by DBR, EMDR, and somatic therapy? Here’s a clear, balanced guide to how they differ, what they share, and who they can suit.
Read MoreThe orienting response: a DBR-friendly explanation
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Have you ever jumped at a sudden noise, felt your stomach drop when someone’s tone changed, or noticed your body tense before you even understood why?
That’s not you being “too sensitive.” That’s your nervous system doing its job.
Read MoreAfter a DBR session: what you may notice and how to support integration
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What happens after Deep Brain Reorienting? Common responses include tiredness, vivid dreams, emotional softness, and calmer reactivity. Here’s how to integrate.
Read MoreWhat a DBR session can feel like
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Wondering what happens in Deep Brain Reorienting? Here’s a step-by-step guide to a DBR session, including pacing, safety, and after-care.
Read MoreDeep Brain Reorienting (DBR): a gentle way of working with shock and trauma
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Deep Brain Reorienting (DBR): a gentle way to resolve shock and trauma
Read MoreIs mindfulness always helpful?
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A few reflections about my experience and practice of mindful meditation.
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