In working with couples, my main focus is on the couple (rather than just the individuals). I look for the relational psychodynamics that emerge during sessions in order to uncover the unconscious/pre-conscious mental processes in each of the partners that underpin the psychological games enacted in the couple. These usually result in mutual disappointment/anger/etc. towards the other partner and/or towards oneself.
Sometimes, exploration of each partner early-life experience might be appropriate to help the couple appreciate the impact of the developmental issues that made each of them behave as they do towards each other.
When the partners have a genuine interest in improving their relationship, moments of meaning can happen and the partners may express again - or sometimes for the first time - a deeper level of genuine intimacy towards each other and feel the healing power of expressing their vulnerability in a safe and confidential environment. Unspoken/previously unknown needs and desires can find their voice and each partner has the opportunity to respond in an more authentic and novel way.
Mutual respect can develop during sessions, and love and friendship have an opportunity to be re-ignited.
The couple process requires courage, openness and honesty. When, as sometimes happens, the partners realise the impossibility of their relationship, these qualities are vital to approach the situation in an adult and mature manner whilst, with my facilitation, they set the ground for a fair and respectful couple relationship termination process that aims to protect each partner and, where applicable, their children and other dependants after the couple relationship ends or changes in nature e.g. the couple relationship ends and a new relationship starts between partners as effective parents of their children.
I offer Couple Counselling only face-to-face. Sessions are usually held weekly or fortnightly.
Only for clients who contact me via this website, I offer an initial complimentary 20 minute consultation.
T - 07803 049 039
E - Paolo@presentingpast.co.uk
Berkshire, Hampshire, Buckinghamshire and Surrey.
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